A new Pew Research Center study released just yesterday confirms what many of us feel in our bones. The United States is first country - out of 25 surveyed across the globe - where the majority of adults view their fellow citizens as morally bad.

This June, I’ll be in Orlando leading a 4-hour pre-conference workshop at the SHRM Annual Conference, the largest gathering of HR professionals in the world. (Oprah’s keynoting this year, and I’m excited!) My session is called “From Fixer to Facilitator: Mediation Skills Every HR Professional Can Use.” And the title says everything about why I proposed it.

Why Handling Conflict Feels So Hard, What the Ladder of Inference Has to Do With It, and How to Find Your Best Way Forward

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Why do so many high-stakes conversations end in frustration or silence? A communication breakdown can happen to anyone, especially when emotions run high and emotions run higher when things really matter to us. Yet, conflict is a normal part of all relationships—at home, at work, and in healthcare. This guide explores the real reasons why communication and conflict resolution often fail, from our biological stress response to emotional triggers that escalate difficult conver

Conflict is a normal part of life and shows up most when we are growing or facing change. It signals that something needs our attention, whether at home, work, or in our communities. Many people try to avoid conflict, but this can be just as harmful as letting it escalate. Conflict itself is not the enemy—it is a sign that something is no longer working and needs to be addressed. The real challenge is preventing conflict from turning into something destructive.

Imagine trying to resolve a heated disagreement at work or facing a family rift that seems impossible to mend. In 2026, conflicts are more complex, affecting not just our emotions but entire organizations and family systems. The emotional toll and productivity losses are staggering, with recent studies showing that unresolved issues cost teams and relationships dearly. Mastering psychology conflict resolution is now essential for anyone seeking personal growth and healthy, re

Whether we're in the conflict or managing the conflict, anger is arguably the most misunderstood emotion in conflict situations. Rather...

Many conflicts aren't just about the topic at hand—they're about our very sense of self.

Fear creates decision-making tunnel vision. We begin to see only binary choices - stay or go, fight or flee, your way or my way, all or nothing.  I've learned to listen for these indicators of fear-based thinking: when people present their situation as having only two options. "We either cut staff or go under." "We must either match our competitor's prices or lose our customers." "I have to either accept this proposal or walk away."  “The person is a problem, so I must fire t

In professional environments, conflict and anxiety often go hand-in-hand, creating a complex dynamic that affects both our performance and our ability to find effective solutions.  When conflict arises, it naturally triggers feelings of anxiety as we worry about negative outcomes, potential damage to professional relationships, or rejection of ourselves and our ideas. This anxiety, in turn, can escalate the original conflict, creating a cycle where negative emotions and behav

We say that conflict is normal. Anger is normal too, and it's often the byproduct of unresolved conflict. But here's what most people miss: anger itself isn't the problem. It's a signal that something important needs attention.  I’ve seen a lot of people have a lot of shame around anger.  While it is not OK to hurt ourselves or others when angry, anger is a normal emotion with information to share.